6 Human Needs
TYPES BY FIRST NEED
All of us have basic needs, not merely desires but profound needs that underlie and motivate every choice we make. There are six universal human needs that can be satisfied in negative or positive ways. They are: Certainty, Significance, Uncertainty/Variety, Love/Connection, Growth and Contribution.The first four are essential to human survival. The last two are essential to human fulfillment.
THE FIRST FOUR ESSENTIAL HUMAN NEEDS FOR SURVIVAL
THE TWO ESSENTIAL HUMAN NEEDS FOR FULFILLMENT
UNCERTAINTY/VARIETY: The second need is for uncertainty – for variety and challenges that will exercise our emotional and physical range. Everyone needs some variety in life. Our bodies, our minds, our emotional well-being all require uncertainty, exercise, suspense, surprise.
The person caught in the same routine day after day will seek change and look for uncertainty. Just as a sense of security is reassuring, so the excitement that comes from variety is necessary to feel alive. For some variety might be satisfied by watching the news on television. Others may seek extreme high-risk activities such as extreme sports or compulsive sexuality to satisfy their need for uncertainty. For many, a major source of variety is to experience problems. Code words for uncertainty/variety are: fear, instability, change, chaos, entertainment, suspense, exertion, surprise, conflict and crisis.
IF YOUR PRIMARY NEED IS FOR UNCERTAINTY/VARIETY YOUR BELIEFS
I believe that happiness comes from having many different experiences and challenges that exercise my emotional, intellectual or physical range. My emotional well-being requires uncertainty, suspense and surprise. I need the excitement that comes from variety.
How This Belief Serves You
I have many interests. People usually see me as entertaining, dynamic, interesting and fun to be with. I can always find new things to do and new adventures. I have many friends from different backgrounds. I interact well with people of all ages and all walks of life. I am trusting and think the best of people. I’m not easily bored because I can always find something interesting to do. I’m fun loving and carefree. I’m usually upbeat and I like to enjoy life to the fullest.
The Principles You Lost Sight Of
To have balance in life there are times where the priority is stability and responsibility in relationships. Sometimes it’s necessary to focus on subjects and tasks that are not particularly interesting in order to obtain rewards later on. You can’t always trust everyone.
The Consequences of Losing Sight of This Principle
People sometimes feel they can’t count on me, that I am uncommitted, unreliable and don’t take care of my loved ones. I can be involved in too many things at once and neglect what I need to do to make sure that I’m safe and comfortable. I can get myself into dangerous or difficult situations physically, emotionally and financially. Sometimes I can be careless about things that I know are important to me and to others. My trusting, optimistic nature makes it possible for people to take advantage of me. Studying, memorizing and sitting still can be difficult for me and may result in challenges in my career. I can become unfocused.
I focus on seeking excitement and change. My focus is on what is new and interesting or challenging. While involved in an adventure, I’m planning the next one. I like suspense and exertion.
I’m energetic and need to focus my energy on several projects. I’m focused outwardly on what there is to do next. Whether I am spectator or an active participant, I constantly seek stimulation and entertainment.
I stay fit in order to be involved in all the activities that interest me.
What You Avoid
I avoid a life of habits and routines. I don’t like to be involved in relationships that restrict me from new challenges and new experiences. I avoid boredom.
I’m enthusiastic, independent and fun to be with. I like to live so that there is never a dull moment. I see the glass half full. I’m a leader and I can be the life of the party. I’m not afraid of taking risks. I’m playful and optimistic.
I like to talk about different projects and adventures. I can be so enthusiastic in my conversation that I forget to listen to the other person or to ask their opinion. Sometimes I become restless and need to stand up and walk around during a conversation. Words that I frequently use are: fear, instability, change, chaos, entertainment, suspense, exertion, surprise, conflict and crisis.
I am stressed when I don’t have the time or the means to become involved in new challenges and adventures. A routine life stresses me. I’m upset if my physical condition prevents me from participating in activities I like. Restrictions on my freedom are very stressful to me.
I get defensive when someone attempts to impose routines or schedules or to restrict my social life. I can get angry when people criticize my desire for adventure and entertainment.
I like to feel excited, thrilled, exuberant, joyful, and adventurous. I do everything possible to avoid boredom. My ability to experience a broad range of emotions makes it easy for me to feel empathy towards others. I know I can experience what they are experiencing.
GROWTH AND BALANCE Your Goal
My goal is to be able to have roots, stability and permanent relationships while still enjoying times of excitement and adventure. Taking good care of myself and of others has to be more of a priority for me. I need to be a better judge of character. I need to live more in the present than in the future.
What To Do
I need to focus more on the present and less on the next adventure in the future. I need to create a stable, harmonious environment for myself and to develop long lasting relationships. I need to focus on activities that are not particularly exciting but that lead to important accomplishments in the future.
What Interferes With Your Goal
There are an infinite number of new, exciting experiences that are open to me. It’s difficult to choose among them and it’s difficult to stay with what I need to focus on in the present. Sometimes I focus too much on my self and what I want. I can be easily distracted and diverted.
How Others Can Support You in Your Goal
Others can support me by encouraging me and praising me when I stick to a task that is not particularly exciting and when I take steps towards taking care of myself and providing stability for myself and my loved ones. People can help me to stay in the present.