Overcoming the Fear of Happiness and our Limiting Beliefs

When an individual works hard, takes responsibly for their health and wellness, and becomes financially and spiritually successful in life and in their relationships, why does this person become afraid of happiness? Why do people accept the belief that happiness is something short-lived, brief and delusional as true? Is it because people don’t want to be happy, or because we don’t know what to do once we find happiness?  More often then not, people live with the fear that if life is good, then what occurs next must be dreadful, never able to enjoy the happy moments, celebrating life with their loved ones, radiating in their victories and living in the present.

Good things happen to wicked people and terrible things happen to good people. Simultaneously, wonderful things also happen to good people and horrifying things happen to malicious people. We live in the material world where nothing is fixed and life is always changing outside of our control. Society attempts to create rules and structure in people’s lives; in order for a person to feel safe and secure in the real delusion, they can control their situations in ways that are actually very much out of their realm of control.

Fear is often caused when an individual worries about the uncertainty in life, feeling out of control, and wondering what terrible or joyful event will happen next in their life. People need to accept both the good and bad in life and realize that they are part of a much larger picture, and at times events are out of their control. Life is easier when a person begins to believe that they do deserve and need to be successful and happy in life but are no longer attached to the outcome. Happiness occurs when a person does their best in life, and they do not worry about the results, success or failures. 

An individual must allow themselves to enjoy the happy moments in life, appreciate the nice things they have earned, but they must move away from being attached to these joyful moments and objects. A person should appreciate nice things but not be defined by them. Moments of hardship are inevitable in life, but if we do our best to prepare for troubled times by living responsibly, enjoying the nice moments without attachment and viewing the challenging periods as life’s lesson to make us better, life will become much simpler. This only occurs when a person no longer focuses on the end result, concerning themselves with becoming rich and famous, but rather focusing on adding value to the people in their lives and making the world a better place for all people and all beings to live harmoniously.    

Below are a few suggested tips to overcome the fear of happiness.     

  1. Reward your achievements and enjoy the good moments in life - pat yourself on the back for each small step you take and share your victories with your loved ones.
  2. Don’t focus on how far you’ve gone in life and what you’ve accomplished - rather focus on the journey and live your life with integrity by not sacrificing your morals to achieve your goals.
  3. Always beware of worrying too much. As soon as you catch yourself worrying take time to evaluate your life and examine areas in which you can improve without being hard on yourself. Break down the irrational fears and recognize that your worrying is really coming from a place of fear of the unknown.
  4. Trust yourself and take simple responsible steps to prepare for the troubled times in life. An easy example is putting aside money each month for an emergency fund or eating healthier foods.  Expect the best and trust that you have done your best in life. Expect the best and trust that everything will work out the way it should.
  5. Exercise, meditate, yoga, jog or do some sort of physical activity that will allow you to physically release negative energy. Do anything that gets the positive energy flowing through your system.