The Secrets to Live a Successful Life

The Secrets to Live a Successful Life

Have you ever wondered about how some people are able to achieve massive amounts of success in their field, while others work just as hard, but achieve very little? The not-so-secret truth, is that individuals who show up on a regular and consistent basis are often the ones who accomplish something worthwhile in life.  Life distracts you – it interrupts you. A large part of success comes from putting the right amount of time in, and on a daily basis. It comes from keeping up with the daily grind.  The truth is, inspiration and success come from your starting point.  Luck and success happen when hard work and consistent effort meet opportunities.

Like it or not, consistency is essential if you want to make any significant change in your life.   Waking up every day and striving to do your best without being attached to the outcome, is an indispensable skill; one that you could use to achieve your goals, and live your life with purpose.  The arduous part, is to remain focused on your goals and dreams, especially when there are no short-term payoffs. It is easy enough to get distracted by life. List most of us, you skip working on your goals and dreams on the days you don’t feel your best and often choose to focus on painless distractions.

One of the fundamental distinctions between successful people and unsuccessful people, is that successful individuals arrive and try, even when they would rather focus on easy, mindless tasks for the sake of being busy in life. They say that practice makes you perfect, but practice simply makes you a practitioner. Rather, it is perfect practice that makes you perfect. Perfection in practice depends on the three main elements: first, you have to practice for a long period of time; second, your practice must not be interrupted—you must do it regularly; and third, you must do your practice with love and respect.

5 Ways To Help You Achieve Your Goals And Dreams Through Consistent Practice

  1. Get your “why” clear: know your vision – having a compelling reason for why you do something will help you keep going.
  2. Pick one project at a time: do not take on multiple tasks at the same time, pick one thing, focus on it, and achieve the results you want before moving on to something new.
  3. Schedule your priorities: plan your activities by priority and stick to them. As you knock the items off your list, your resolve gets stronger and motivates you to keep moving further.
  4. Ignore the voice: ignore the voice that tells you to skip the things that are important. This is probably the most difficult one, but as you do more of this, it’ll get easier.
  5. Accept your slipups: it’s ok if you miss something, don’t beat yourself about it too much. Consistently move forward and get back on track by shifting your focus to the next task.

Consistency commands respect and honor on your part. It demands that you commit yourself to a sustained effort of action over the long-term.  This essentially means that you keep your promise to yourself and to others that you will follow through with what you set out to do consistently over a period of time, right up until the moment your objectives are achieved. As such, consistency is all about your ability to be dependable, reliable, and responsible for all your choices, decisions, and actions.

Consistency is about building small, empowering habits and rituals that you partake in every single day that keep you focused on your highest priorities and goals. Therefore, it essentially comes down to your ability to hold yourself accountable for the daily choices you make with no excuses and no complaints. You, and you alone, are accountable for what you do and what you fail to do. All responsibility lies solely in your hands.

Consistency means to focus on the present moment, while simultaneously maintaining a long-term vision of the future that helps you measure your results and the impact of your daily actions. With this regular feedback in your hands, you are better able to learn from your failures and mistakes to help you effectively alter your course of action where required

And the best part, is that the longer you remain consistent, the better able you’ll be to see just how far you’ve come. If you’ve ever been in a situation where you haven’t seen a noticeable change in the direction you want, it’s because you haven’t been consistent long enough or you’ve been consistently going in the wrong direction. Make sure that you’re following the right course and you keep at it. From there, your success is bound to follow, as long as you never quit.

If you take consistent action towards your goals every day, where do you see yourself in three months?

6 Ways to Develop More Consistent habits

  1. Use a morning ritual.  This is perhaps the most powerful tip I have found so far in this area. Simply set up a routine in the morning that you do as soon as you wake up; this works so well because what you do early in the day often sets the context for the rest of your day to follow. As humans, we have a strong tendency to want to be consistent with what we have done before. That’s one big reason why a bad start often leads to a bad day and a good start often leads to a good day.
  2. Do things, even if you don’t feel like it.  Your inner voice and feelings can be disregarded if you like. Remember, you can do whatever you want to do anyway.
  3. Don’t hurt yourself. Whatever you do throughout your day sends signals back to yourself about what kind of person you are. Do the right thing – like being effective, kind, or going to the gym to feel good. If you get lazy, negative, or just plain mean, you’ll tend to feel worse after a while. You don’t get away, there is no escaping yourself. And there is always a price to pay. Use these points as powerful motivators to become a better person.
  4. Focus on and take responsibility for the process, not the potential results. If you focus on the process, you will be a lot more relaxed and prone to continue, than if you stare yourself blind on the potential results that never come as quickly as you want to.
  5. Find and do what you love or like to do.  It is always easier to stick with the program if you love, or at least like, what you are doing every week. So, experiment and find what suits you best.
  6. Hold yourself accountable, with help – we all plateau. It’s frustrating, but also a normal part of life. The key to bursting through ceilings, be it mental, physical, or financial, is to hold yourself accountable. Now, that doesn’t mean to hold yourself accountable for doing it all, but hold yourself accountable for getting help.  Regardless of the form help takes, make it a priority to get some this year. You’ll be surprised by how much further and faster a little help can take you as you struggle to stay consistent and realize your dreams.

 

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When We Hold Onto The Past, We Lose The Capacity To Grow And Change Our Lives.  Learn How To Develop The Skills To Let Go Of Your Narrative And Learn To Live Life With Purpose.

When We Hold Onto The Past, We Lose The Capacity To Grow And Change Our Lives. Learn How To Develop The Skills To Let Go Of Your Narrative And Learn To Live Life With Purpose.

I have some bad news:  Everything in our world and everything about you is going to change and someday, come to an end.  However, I also have some good news:  Everything in our world and everything about you is going to change and someday, come to an end.

What do I mean? Material success is temporary and we have to continuously work hard to flourish and maintain a high level of health, wealth, and our overall wellbeing. All of our problems are temporary, and through hard work and determination, we can overcome any obstacle and face any challenge set in front of us.  With continuous effort, hard work, and the desire to grow, we can make lasting changes and create our dream life.

 

If transformation is conceivable, and everything is impermanent, why do we then continue to struggle with the same problems day in and day out without any noticeable changes?

 

After much deliberation, I came to realize that change is hard. It is not due to a persons’ desire or social support, but rather due to the truth that the average person often uses their past experiences to judge themselves now. As a result, because he or she has struggled yesterday, last week, last year, and for the last decade, history tells us that we will struggle tomorrow, next week, next year, and for the next 10 years.

This is not accurate. We are not our past. Our past is a narrative of who we were, not who we are today and who we will be tomorrow. Letting go of the past is healthy and it is fundamental if you plan to grow and evolve as a person.

The consequences of being dragged down by your past are far-reaching. These consequences can negatively impact your self-view, your relationships, and your dreams. In addition, it can create daily feelings of sadness and frustration. And all of this is unnecessary.

Letting go of the past is arduous. Letting go of negative people, bad ideas, false beliefs, and unhealthy relationships is the only way to change our narrative and create the life we desire.  Every day, each individual moment presents an opportunity to create a new life for ourselves, to remove negative feelings from the past, open ourselves up to the possibility of the moment, and take action to create an incredible future.

 

6 Ways To Let Go of The Past

  1. Make the decision to let it go.
  2. Express your pain — and your responsibility.
  3. Stop being the victim and blaming others.
  4. Focus on the present — the here and now — and joy.
  5. Forgive and forget.
  6. Do not wait one more minute for an apology.

 

Although we can intellectually understand that we are not our past narrative, knowing this truth and letting go of the past are two very different situations. Holding onto the past is always damaging in some way. Even holding onto positive events from the past can create limitations in our lives when setting boundaries for the future we want to live.  More often than not, we hold onto the past because of our need for certainty

Certainty is a fundamental human need. We all have a need to feel certain in life, so we can avoid pain and discover comfort. Letting go of the past is frightening because it forces us to step into the unknown and create a different life in the future than the one we live today.

Change is hard and it is difficult to be vulnerable. It can be overwhelmingly uncomfortable to have that sense of uncertainty about what lies ahead. To counter this feeling, we hang on to the past, because even if it is steeped in pain, it is a pain we are familiar with and are certain about.

We all need to let go of the past, both positive and negative pasts, to fully enjoy the next stage of our lives.  Learning to let go of the things that are not serving you positively will free up energy and resources so that you can begin to reap the benefits of a grateful, joyful life.

 

Five Ways To Let Go of The Past And Learn To Live Life on Purpose

 

  1. Take The Time To Understand The Past: Take time to reflect on your own history as a third party looking in without judgment; simply observe. Understand that you are not your past. Understand that the situations, patterns, and people in your life created your experiences. However, they did not create you. Knowing and understanding your past and some of your patterns will help you to recognize why you hold on and repeat self-destructive behaviors. Understanding creates awareness; awareness helps you break the cycle.
  2. Accept Your Past And Live In The Present:  Accept your history and the people that have been a part of your history; accept your circumstances and remember that none of these define you. Acceptance is the first step to letting go and setting yourself free. Learn from the monk in the story: carrying bitterness, anger, or animosity burdens no one, but you.
  3. Transform Your Narrative:  Simply put, we are our story. Not so much the story of the events in our lives, but the story we tell ourselves about the role we played in the events—hero or victim, beloved or unworthy, competent or careless.  One powerful strategy for easing the pain of the past is to rewrite key aspects of the story from a more balanced, empathetic perspective. A healthy rewrite makes you less victimized, less devastated, and less lost than the one you told yourself at the time of the original injury. It reduces the feelings of deep rage, loss, and fear that have been holding you back.
  4. Believe In Yourself:  Believe in your purpose. Believe that the universe is unfolding as it should and that you have a divine roll to play. Believe that holding on does nothing but hold you back from that purpose.
  5. Anchor Yourself In The Future:  It is hard to let go of the past in the absence of a positive view of tomorrow. You need to see a vision of the future. An investment in, a distraction through, or an excitement about something ahead will supply the energy and the will to push you beyond the past.

 

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Am I a Confident Person?  How Does Confidence Make Life Easier?

Am I a Confident Person? How Does Confidence Make Life Easier?

Have you ever been acquainted with someone who has low confidence? How does this person come across to you?  Do they always seem to carry the weight of the world on their shoulders?  Did you ever observe this person speaking negatively about their personal life or gossip about the misfortune of others? What about seeming jealous of other people’s success in life?

They make it seem like all of their problems and failures are on the fault of others, as if the world owes them something, and that life is unfair or out to get them.  A person who lacks confidence has a lack of self-belief, usually caused by a sense of uncertainty about something or about themselves.

People with low self-esteem tend to see the world as a hostile place and themselves as its victim. As a result, they are reluctant to express and assert themselves. They often miss out on experiences and opportunities and feel powerless to change things. This effectively lowers their self-esteem and further pushes them into a downward spiral.

As Mindful People Living A Spiritual Life In The Material World, How Do We Become Both Spiritually And Materially Successful?  How Do We Realize Work Life, Spiritual Life, And Personal Life Success?

 

Part of the practice to becoming successful in all areas of life, is to develop habits that lead us to becoming a more confident person, to unearth our own truth, keep to our own distinctive path, and to take responsibility for our lives. We must become confident and carry the knowledge that we are powerful beings capable of overcoming any obstacle, we can face any challenge, and we are able to achieve unlimited levels of success and lasting happiness.

The questions are, “how do we become more confident?” and “how do we develop faith in ourselves to no longer blame others for our struggles in life?”  We must learn to take charge of who we are and set out to live our Dharma, our truth. Nobody is born with limitless self-confidence. If someone seems to have incredible self-confidence, it is because he or she has worked on building it for years. Self-confidence is something that you learn to build up because the challenging world of business, and life in general, can deflate it.

Confidence can be explained as an individuals’ certitude to succeed and inherit conviction in his or her abilities to face any challenge head-on. Self-confidence means being assured in your own worth, ability, and power, regardless of the situation you are in. Someone who is self-confident has a strong sense of self-belief and certainty in him or herself. He or she exudes calmness, composure, and is self-aware in their abilities.  In order to become self-confident we must embrace who we are at this very moment.

 

7 Steps To Help You Be More Confident

  • Visualize yourself as who you want to be each morning before you start the day.
  • Affirm yourself with daily affirmations.
  • Do one thing that scares you every day.
  • Question your inner critic through the daily practice of mindfulness mediation.
  • Set yourself up to win by asking others for help.
  • Help someone else achieve his or her goal.
  • Care for yourself and take time out of your day to reset and care for your personal needs.

 

Your level of self-confidence can surface in multiple ways: your behavior, your body language, how you speak, and what you say.  Fundamentally, self-confidence is linked directly to how you feel about yourself and your abilities. Your self-worth, whether it is high, low, or somewhere in-between, has a great impact on your life.  Even the greatest leaders lack self-confidence at certain times. Self-confidence is not a static quality; rather, it is a mindset that takes effort to maintain. Self-confidence can be learned, practiced, and mastered just like any other skill. In other words, we must learn to find a deep and profound love for our inner being

Self-confidence is unmistakably an asset in life. Not only does it make you feel better emotionally and mentally, but it also sets you up toward achieving your goals. When you are confident, it helps you fearlessly pursue your goals. It gives you the belief to conquer your challenges, no matter how insurmountable they seem.

Practice These Core Techniques To Strengthen Your Belief System And Improve Your Self-Confidence

  1. Know Your Weaknesses and Strengths: It is essential to recognize your natural strengths. When you realize your inherent abilities, the next step is to focus on the things that you are good at doing.
  2. Accept yourself: You are unique spiritual beings. It is important not to beat yourself up over the things that you have trouble doing. Instead of complaining about your weaknesses, try to find ways to improve your life.
  3. Remember Your Victories: Many people downplay their successes and focus on their struggles in life.  Always remind yourself of your past accomplishments no matter how small they may be. Break the habit of focusing on the negative parts of your life and instead concentrate on your achievements.
  4. Read Positive Affirmations: It is important that you read affirmations that make you feel confident. Read a self-help book and then write down all of the things that motivate you. Read something positive on a daily basis and reflect on what you can do to improve your situation.
  5. Create S.M.A.R.T Goals: Set achievable goals on a regular basis and then take small steps to accomplish them. Make sure your goals are measurable and monitor your progress. Do not get upset if you are unable to accomplish all of your goals. You can always change your goals so that you can be more successful.
  6. Be Persistent: Do not give up in achieving your goals in your life. Learn from your mistakes and try to improve on your situation. Do not make excuses on why you should quit or give up. Sometimes it takes a lot of effort to be successful. The key is to keep at it until you get what you want and are able to achieve your goals.

 

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A Life with Meaning by Finding Gratitude with What We Have

A Life with Meaning by Finding Gratitude with What We Have

Spirituality means something different to each and every person; it does not fit in a box and it does not conform to one person’s ideals. To live a spiritual life a person does not need to withdraw from the material world. However, some key components to living a spiritual life are learning to live in harmony with the world around us, finding balance, and living a financially stable life.

Each person’s understanding of balance and each person’s financial means is different, and no two people are similar. Some people find balance by having a strong social life full of activities, while others find balance by living quietly at home. Some find balance through physical activity, while others find balance through professional pursuits. We all have different needs, wants and desires. Balance is met when we spend time in areas of pursuit that bring us fulfillment. True balance is found when we have full work, life, and spiritual integration.

However, it is impossible to find balance and live a spiritually conscious life if we are continuously plagued by financial difficulties and stress. We live in a world of weapons of mass distraction. We are bombarded with advertising designed to convince us that we need the latest, the greatest, and the most expensive to be successful and happy. With all the pressure to have the latest and greatest, how do you live a more spiritual life in such a material world?

I am not a financial expert.

I could not explain to you how savings works, the effects of compounding, or the benefits of putting aside 20% of your income each month. I focus most of my energy on learning how to coach people on ways they can unlock their true potential, achieve their goals, and discover how to live their life on purpose. Nevertheless, I know that my life is easier, and I have more time for myself and my personal pursuits, when I live within my financial means, maintain a budget and actively save money each month. My life is better when I am financially responsible.

To live within your means and have a spiritual practice, a person should begin to spend less than or at least equal to the amount they earn each month. However, for most people, in the age of weapons of mass distraction, it’s a lot easier said than done. We constantly compare ourselves to others, and base success on the amount of possessions we own in relation to our neighbors. Yet when we begin to practice contentment with what we have accomplished in life we become less concerned with status in relations to others, and we begin to focus more of our energy on bettering ourselves and the world around us. We start to need less stuff and life becomes easier. Believing that the new object we buy will bring us happiness is based on a feeling of lack that all too often enters our minds. In this sense, lack is that sense of ‘I’m not good enough’ or ‘I’m not whole without that new thing’, when really we always were and always will be good enough no matter what. May all beings be happy and free, and may all our words, thoughts and actions contribute in some way to that happiness and freedom for all.

 

  1. Count your blessings. With the attitude of gratitude in life, what we have becomes enough. When you find yourself unhappy with something, or with what you don’t have, take a moment to count all the good things in your life. Focus on what you do have rather than what you don’t.
  2. Stop, and consider why you want something. When you feel the urge to buy something, think about whether it’s a need or a want. If it’s a want, take a pause. It’s good to wait 30 days — keep a 30-day list… when you want something, put it on the list with the date, and if you still want it in 30 days, you can buy it. Consider why you want something too. Are you not content with what you already have? Why not?
  3. Show people you appreciate them. It’s good to appreciate people, but it’s even better to show them. Give them a hug, smile, spend time with them, thank them out loud, thank them publicly, breathe, and smile. Once again, advice from one of my favorite monks, but it works in this context. Sometimes when we take the time to breathe and smile, it can change our outlook on life.
  4. Learn to enjoy the simple things. Instead of wanting to buy expensive things and spend money on doing things like eating out or entertainment, learn to enjoy stuff that’s free. Conversations and walks with other people. Spending time outdoors. Watching a DVD or playing board games. Going to the beach. Playing sports. Running. These things don’t cost much, and they are awesome.

 

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Developing Self-Discipline to Achieve Greatness

Developing Self-Discipline to Achieve Greatness

Why do persons accept as truth the notion that living a disciplined life is monotonous, and why do individuals allow these beliefs to guide them to feel trapped in a mundane life?  I believe that having self-control is NOT tedious, but more exactly the road to personal freedom. Discipline can lead you to what you are truly yearning for in life. Every day, the most successful people in life practice discipline. Boundaries lead to greater freedom when the discipline we establish allows for spaciousness in life. When we say yes to one thing, we are saying no to something else. Life is all about making choices. Discipline provides a person with the tools to control one’s urges, emotions, and behavior. Self-restraint allows a person to turn down instant gratification in favor of gaining the long-term satisfaction of achieving meaningful and lasting goals.

Discipline and personal self-restraint are fundamental principals for a healthy and functioning society and without them, communities around the world would be in complete disarray. As modern society continues to move faster and faster, people are increasingly susceptible to and unable or unwilling to look at the long-term effects of their actions. This further demonstrates why this is such a crucial skill to have in life. Next to having a life vision, self-discipline is the most critical component to achieving a goal. It provides you with the tools to overcome any obstacles that come your way on your path to achieving your life’s purpose.

Discipline as a key component to achieve happiness is a universal truth for all people and all beings. Spending money frivolously without financial self-control leads to uncontrollable debt and a life of scarceness. However, living on a budget and saving a portion of your income will eventually lead to feelings of abundance and freedom. Eating without limitations leads to health issues and excess weight, both of which will eventually limit your freedom. A daily schedule without any structure leads to idleness and inactivity.

A part of living life on purpose is developing self-discipline to achieve greatness.  It takes hard work and determination to accomplish anything worthwhile. Deciding to be conscious of our habits, actions and behaviors leads to true lasting freedom. Creating unnecessary burdens by living life without care only leads to further hardship. Luck happens when hard work and self-discipline meet opportunity.

 

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Overcoming the Fear of Happiness and our Limiting Beliefs

Overcoming the Fear of Happiness and our Limiting Beliefs

When an individual works hard, takes responsibly for their health and wellness, and becomes financially and spiritually successful in life and in their relationships, why does this person become afraid of happiness? Why do people accept the belief that happiness is something short-lived, brief and delusional as true? Is it because people don’t want to be happy, or because we don’t know what to do once we find happiness?  More often then not, people live with the fear that if life is good, then what occurs next must be dreadful, never able to enjoy the happy moments, celebrating life with their loved ones, radiating in their victories and living in the present.

Good things happen to wicked people and terrible things happen to good people. Simultaneously, wonderful things also happen to good people and horrifying things happen to malicious people. We live in the material world where nothing is fixed and life is always changing outside of our control. Society attempts to create rules and structure in people’s lives; in order for a person to feel safe and secure in the real delusion, they can control their situations in ways that are actually very much out of their realm of control.

Fear is often caused when an individual worries about the uncertainty in life, feeling out of control, and wondering what terrible or joyful event will happen next in their life. People need to accept both the good and bad in life and realize that they are part of a much larger picture, and at times events are out of their control. Life is easier when a person begins to believe that they do deserve and need to be successful and happy in life but are no longer attached to the outcome. Happiness occurs when a person does their best in life, and they do not worry about the results, success or failures.

An individual must allow themselves to enjoy the happy moments in life, appreciate the nice things they have earned, but they must move away from being attached to these joyful moments and objects. A person should appreciate nice things but not be defined by them. Moments of hardship are inevitable in life, but if we do our best to prepare for troubled times by living responsibly, enjoying the nice moments without attachment and viewing the challenging periods as life’s lesson to make us better, life will become much simpler. This only occurs when a person no longer focuses on the end result, concerning themselves with becoming rich and famous, but rather focusing on adding value to the people in their lives and making the world a better place for all people and all beings to live harmoniously.

Below are a few suggested tips to overcome the fear of happiness.  

  1. Reward your achievements and enjoy the good moments in life – pat yourself on the back for each small step you take and share your victories with your loved ones.
  2. Don’t focus on how far you’ve gone in life and what you’ve accomplished – rather focus on the journey and live your life with integrity by not sacrificing your morals to achieve your goals.
  3. Always beware of worrying too much. As soon as you catch yourself worrying take time to evaluate your life and examine areas in which you can improve without being hard on yourself. Break down the irrational fears and recognize that your worrying is really coming from a place of fear of the unknown.
  4. Trust yourself and take simple responsible steps to prepare for the troubled times in life. An easy example is putting aside money each month for an emergency fund or eating healthier foods.  Expect the best and trust that you have done your best in life.
  5. Expect the best and trust that everything will work out the way it should. Exercise, meditate, yoga, jog or do some sort of physical activity that will allow you to physically release negative energy. Do anything that gets the positive energy flowing through your system.

 

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