I am the architect and builder of my life.

I am the architect and builder of my life.

I am the architect and builder of my life.

I have the ultimate say in my life. Architects are only limited by their imagination when designing buildings. I am only limited by my imagination when designing my life.

I am the creator of my life. I am the creator of my dreams.

I know exactly what I want for myself and my life. My goals are crystal clear to me. I know where I am going in this world. I am taking steps each and every day to get there as quickly as possible.

I am patient, but I am persistent. I am constantly improving my plan for my life, but I spend each day moving my life in a positive direction.

I avoid making excuses for my life. I take full responsibility. When I blame others or my circumstances, I lose control. By taking full responsibility, I am also taking full control.

I am building my life one day at a time. I only have to lay one perfect brick each day to eventually have a magnificent life.

I enjoy the process as much as I do the end result. The little victories along the way encourage me to create an even bigger and bolder version of my ideal life.

Today, I am taking one good step toward the life I dream about each day. I am reminded of the control I have over my destiny. I am determined to exercise that destiny.

Self-Reflection Questions:

  1. What is my dream for my life?
  2. What can I do today to move in the direction of that vision?
  3. What am I willing to stop doing each day to make my dreams a reality?

 

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Staying Positive When Youre Surrounded By Negative People

Staying Positive When Youre Surrounded By Negative People

You probably know more than your fair share of negative people! Since they’re everywhere, it’s important to know how to coexist with them.

Negative people can have an impact on your attitude and your day. But, that doesn’t have to be the case. There are ways to mitigate the effect that negative people have on you.

Practice these strategies to avoid allowing negative people to negatively impact your life:

1,  Understand that you can only control yourself, but you can influence others. You can’t snap your fingers and make the people around you take a more positive view of the world. But you can control yourself and how you choose to react to their negativity.

You might even be able to sway people over to your way of thinking a little bit. Set a good example and be a positive influence on those around you.

Accept people for who they are. It’s just easier that way

2.  Be grateful. One way to maintain a positive attitude is to remind yourself of the positive. When you’re feeling run down by the negativity around you, make a quick mental list of the things in your life that you’re thankful for. It will give your mood a quick boost.

3.  Remember that it’s not about you. Everyone has their challenges and issues. There’s no reason to be upset that someone has a negative attitude. It likely doesn’t have anything to do with you at all. It could be circumstances in their life or their basic nature. Just keep on doing what you’re doing.

4.  You have the choice to be positive or negative. You can choose to be affected or not by the people around you. Focus on yourself and keep your chin up. Take care of your business and let others view the world however they choose.

5.  Speak up. Sometimes it can be helpful to tell people to just cut it out. Many people will push until someone calls them on their behavior. Have a frank talk with someone that’s perpetually negative. Maybe they’re not aware of the impact they’re having on others.

6.  Spend time with positive people. Recharge your batteries with the positive energy of other positive people. Get away from those negative people and spend time with people full of positive attitude. It doesn’t take long to recenter yourself when you surround yourself with the right people.

7.  Make the most of your time alone. Make the most of the time you have to yourself. Do things you really enjoy doing. Read positive affirmations. Watch feel-good movies. Put your attention on positivity. It can be like armor against negative people.

8.  Headphone can be your friend. If the situation permits, put on some headphones or earbuds. What you can’t hear can’t bother you. Consider listening to a positive podcast or music that makes you feel good. If your work situation allows this, it would be silly not to take advantage of it.

 

9.  Stay away. There are plenty of people in your life that are optional. Stay away from negative people that you don’t have to associate with. You have some control over who is part of your life and who is not.

Negative people will drag you down if you let them. Take steps to minimize the impact they have on your life. Practice gratitude each day, and you can maintain a positive perspective. Block negative people out with headphones and stay away from as many negative people as possible.

Negative people will always be around, but you can deal with them and still be a positive person.

 

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In The Dark

In The Dark

In The Dark

The story of a man who only saw darkness

The moment Gary tippy-toed outside of his home, he just knew it was going to be a terrible day.  But Gary found out something surprising and rather embarrassing…

Gary stepped outside and knew at once that it was going to be one of those terrible days.  Everything was dark and gloomy, like a thunderstorm was only moments away. But it was strange – the weather reporter had said the day would be sunny.  

Gary continued on to his favorite coffee shop.  Inside the coffee shop, the lights were dim, as if some bulbs had burned out.  He thought, “What kind of lousy restaurant doesn’t change the light bulbs when they go out?”   

Gary sat down and looked at the menu, but the dim lighting was making him more and more depressed.  When the waitress came by to take his order, Gary ordered his food, but he stopped her as she started walking back to the kitchen.

“Why don’t you guys fix some of these light bulbs? It’s so dark in here.  Do you think your customers like to eat in the dark?” Gary, whose mood had gotten progressively worse since he left the house, spoke angrily and a little too loudly.

“But sir,” the waitress said, looking confused, “No bulbs are burned out here.  You’re wearing sunglasses.”

Gary pulled his glasses off.  It was true! He had grabbed the wrong pair of glasses out of his dresser drawer.   He apologized to her and made sure to leave a big tip.

MORAL:  When searching for the source of your unhappiness, look first to yourself.

What an eye opener! Isn’t it true that the fault we find in the world around us can often be traced back to what’s inside ourselves? It’s so easy to project our problems onto others when taking ownership of the issues would actually help us solve them much more quickly.

How often do we try to make a spouse or a roommate change behaviors, to no avail? We all know we can’t change others! We can encourage and persuade, but we can’t make people do anything we wish.

Knowing this truth, we ought to be able to see how counterproductive it is to get irritated by things going on around us. We automatically think those problems are someone else’s responsibility when we already have the power to stop the irritation!

Just like Gary in the story, when we think problems belong to someone else, we spend a lot of time grumbling and complaining that those people won’t fix their issues. We go around in a rotten mood and make things miserable for those around us.

Now contrast that unhappy picture with someone who takes responsibility for his own unhappiness. “Am I a part of the problem or the solution?” a wise person might ask. When things aren’t going well, the key is to stop and think about your attitudes and actions.

Blaming others keeps us from finding solutions to the root cause of the issue. Taking responsibility and examining our weaknesses, mistakes or contributions to the problem allow us to take positive action toward improvements.

Self-reflection lets us take off the sunglasses and put on the clear lenses. Maybe there are still a few bulbs in the restaurant that need to be changed, but at that point, we’ve done everything we can to improve the situation on our own.

Sometimes we can do a whole lot to improve a situation, and sometimes not so much. But taking ownership and moving forward always makes us happier than blaming others and waiting for them to change. Blaming others is automatically a recipe for frustration!

Self-Reflection Questions:

  1. Are there issues in my life where I’m blaming others for things not going well?
  2. What am I doing that may be contributing to the problem?
  3. Is my perspective causing my own unhappiness?

 

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I am free of self-doubt.

I am free of self-doubt.

I am free of self-doubt.

I am brimming with confidence. I deserve to have a high level of self-confidence. Self-doubt is a foreign concept to me. All I know is confidence. As my confidence grows, the room available for self-doubt disappears.

Even when others feel anxious and filled with worry, I am free of self-doubt. I am able to maintain my confidence even when around others that are concerned.

I am independent of my environment. I choose how I feel, and I choose to feel confident. I expect positive outcomes. I am an optimist.

I trust myself. I am impressed with my ability to handle any situation with wisdom and creativity.

I know how to be successful. I have proven this to myself numerous times. When I reflect on my accomplishments, my confidence in myself grows. I learn from my failures, so failing ultimately builds my self-confidence, too.

I make decisions quickly. I take decisive action. The trust and confidence I have in myself is comforting.

Each successful day I live brings even greater certainty. I am more confident today than I was yesterday. I know I can be even more confident tomorrow.

Today, I am living confidently and free of self-doubt. I am putting my plans into action and believe that everything is working out for the best. I am free of self-doubt.

Self-Reflection Questions:

  1. What am I allowing to hold me back in my life? Why?
  2. What would I do if I were confident that I would be successful?
  3. What is the worst that could go wrong? How could I handle that situation?

 

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A 7-Step Process for Dealing With Failure and Other Setbacks

A 7-Step Process for Dealing With Failure and Other Setbacks

You can accomplish anything if you’re willing to fail along the way. Failure is a consistent part of success. The most successful people fail far more often than the least successful people.

Life is full of setbacks. The question is whether you allow failure and other setbacks to derail your efforts. Everyone can learn to better deal with these common annoyances on the road to success.

Failure is a funny thing. It feels embarrassing and catastrophic, but that’s rarely the case. You fail every day. When you think your keys are in the kitchen drawer, but discover they are not, you failed. However, you don’t let it bother you. Instead, you just look somewhere else.

Dealing with failure can be that simple. If your first attempt doesn’t work, try something else.

The same can be said for your 30th failed attempt. Most people try a time or two and then give up. They decide it either can’t be done, or the stress of failing becomes too much to bear.

Use this process to overcome failure:

1.  Maintain your composure. Nothing will derail your progress like becoming emotionally distraught or quitting altogether. Undesirable results happen more often than not. It’s important to understand this fact.

When you expect that you’ll sometimes fail, it won’t bother you nearly as much. You simply keep going.

2.  Determine what went wrong. If possible, determine the error in your approach. Do your best to understand exactly what happened and why. If you don’t understand the issue, you can’t correct it.

3.  Maybe you just need to try again. Some things just naturally have high failure rates, like sales. For some products and services, you might face 100s of failures between successes. There’s no reason to fret, just try again. And again. And again.

4.  Alter your approach. It’s important to keep improving your method. No matter how great you are at something, it can always be better. Take a few minutes each day and adjust your approach.

5.  Look for alternatives. Maybe you need to try a completely new approach. There are often multiple ways around any obstacle. Maybe you can find a better alternative. For example, if you’ve been cold-calling for clients, maybe it would be better to:

–  Cold-email
–  Ask people you know for referrals
–  Show up in person
–  Attend meetups or conventions
–  Send postcards
–  Pass out flyers
–  Send lumpy mail
–  If you’ve thoroughly investigated one method, try another.

6.  Sharpen your axe. Sometimes it’s not about how hard you chop at the trees. It’s about how sharp your axe is. Develop yourself each day. Work on your general sales skills and charisma if those are useful. A chemist might brush up on his knowledge of synthetic organic chemistry.

7.  Work on your coping skills. Figure out the best ways to handle the stress and other negative emotions that commonly accompany failure and setbacks.

Keep your options healthy. Calling a friend, exercise, and meditation are examples of acceptable options.

Using drugs, alcohol, or food are examples of unhealthy coping strategies.

You can’t succeed if you can’t handle failure. Most of us are far more afraid of failure than we should be. A failed sales call or 30-foot putt isn’t a life and death matter. The most successful people fail more often than they succeed. It’s just part of the game.

One of the best ways to predict your success is to look at your ability to handle failure. Successful people handle failure without any undo fuss. Just learn and keep going.

 

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A Positive Outlook Leads To A Productive Mind

A Positive Outlook Leads To A Productive Mind

A positive outlook leads to a productive mind.

I make it a point to focus on the positive things in my life. As a result, I am able to create a life that fulfills me!

There are many things beyond my control that I release from my conscious thought. I remind myself to concentrate on things that I have the power to influence. When I take this approach, I get more wins and favorable results.

My days at work are satisfactory because I set a realistic schedule of things to accomplish. Whenever I do this, I feel organized and focused on a specific mission.

I stay away from thinking about responsibilities that I am unable to take on at that moment. My sanity is intact because I allow myself to be in the moment and concentrate on what is in front of me.

My approach always leads to a productive work day.

When I allow my mind to wander, I think about things that make me happy or excited. Doing this pushes me to be creative and find ways to accomplish greatness.

Training my mind to put positive thoughts at the forefront of my consciousness also strengthens my character. My optimism and confidence transform possibilities into opportunities.

Today, my mind is the source of a positive existence that produces good results and a fine quality of life. I celebrate having a sound mind that I am able to use to alter my life in a way that benefits me.

Self-Reflection Questions:

  1. What strategies can I use to keep producing new ideas?
  2. What are some of my greatest sources of inspiration?
  3. How do I keep my mind active to ensure I am constantly creating?

 

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