Declutter Your Mind And Enjoy Inner Peace

Declutter Your Mind And Enjoy Inner Peace

No sane person has ever claimed they had a mind that was too clear and peaceful. We’d all like to feel less cluttered and more peaceful and relaxed.

Decluttering your mind is largely the result of decluttering all aspects of your life.

We tend to put too many burdens on our minds, but there’s a more effective way to live. With a few simple hacks, you can reduce the load on your mind and give it the peace it craves.

Add serenity to your life with these techniques:

1.  Remove the challenging people from your life. There are people that take up a lot of space in your brain. Some of those people are optional in your life, and you might not even like them! Why are you keeping them around?

–  Be willing to let go of the people that take more time and effort than they’re worth to you.

2.  Remove unnecessary activities from your life. This could be committees you serve on, sports teams you play on, or going out on Thursday nights. Maybe you’re taking accordion lessons but realize that you’re not enjoying it that much. Cut these activities out of your life and gain the gift of time.

3.  Declutter your environment. Your mind and inner peace are affected by your environment. This includes your home, workspace, and anywhere else you spend a significant amount of time. Have you ever noticed how nice it feels when your home is clean? You can feel that way all of the time.

4.  Meditate. Meditation might be the ultimate way to declutter your mind and enjoy inner peace. Meditation is very simple but challenging to do well. However, it’s possible to receive many benefits from meditation even if you’re a beginner.

–  There are many resources online that can teach you the basics of meditation.

–  Twenty minutes of meditation each day can change your life and bring inner peace.

5.  Write things down. Trying to remember things puts a huge load on your mind. You can never truly relax when you have to remember to do something. Write things down and use alarms. Knowing that something else will keep track of your obligations for you will allow your mind to relax.

6.  Mono-task. Forget about multitasking. It’s ineffective and creates stress. Limit yourself to one task at a time. You’ll feel better and get much more accomplished.

–  Try it for a day. Do one task at a time and focus all of your attention on that task. Notice how much better you feel while working and at the end of the day.

7.  Make fewer decisions. The fewer decisions you have to make each day, the more inner peace you’ll feel.

–  For example, limiting your wardrobe makes it easier to figure out what to wear each day. Even better, pick out your outfit for the following day before you go to bed.

–  You can eat the same healthy breakfast each morning.

–  Look for ways to minimize the number of decisions you have to make.

8.  Get enough sleep. Notice how cluttered your mind feels after a poor night of sleep. Experiment to determine the proper amount of sleep your mind and body need each night.

9.  Limit your exposure to the news and social media. The news and social media will drive you crazy if you spend too much time consuming them. It’s important to stay aware of what’s happening in the world, but you don’t have to bombard yourself with negative information day and night.

Treat your mind like you would an injured body part. You would reduce the amount of work it has to do and treat it gently. Most of us ask our minds to do more than it was designed to do. Give your mind a break and gain the peace you crave!


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Transitions Create Opportunities

Transitions Create Opportunities

Change can be exhilarating. It lifts me out of a rut. I break out of my comfort zone and try new things. Change also enables progress. I know that I need to be flexible if I want to be successful.

Change makes me more resilient. I discover my strengths and build my confidence. I realize that I am capable of more than I thought.

I advance in my career. If I get laid off, I have more time to search for my next position. I may change fields or take on more responsibility. I may start my own business or go back to school.

I develop strong and supportive relationships. Marriages and friendships sometimes end. I am still capable of loving and being loved. I make new connections based on who I am now instead of who I used to be.

I age gracefully. I adapt my diet and workouts to suit my current condition. I style my hair to show off my gray strands. I appreciate gaining wisdom and patience rather than fretting about a few wrinkles.

I pursue my goals. When I complete one project, I plan my next adventure.

I turn fear into excitement. I remember that moving forward is more productive than trying to protect the status quo. I choose words that help me to think positive. I focus on what I can do instead of worrying about events beyond my control.

Today, I embrace transitions as a natural and beneficial part of life. I accept losses and gains. I cope with changes big and small.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1.  How can humor help to me to deal with change?

2.  Why is it unrealistic to expect stability?

3.  What is one important opportunity that change has created for me?


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I live consciously.

I live consciously.

I give my full attention to what I am doing now. I am aware and alert.

I let go of expectations. I accept reality. I deal with current conditions instead of resisting them. I love myself just as I am. I appreciate others without judging them or wishing that they were different.

I welcome change and tolerate discomfort. I know that living consciously requires effort. I examine my thoughts and feelings. I take worthwhile risks. I grow wiser and more skillful.

I treat myself and others with compassion. I am kind and forgiving. I free myself from anger and resentment.

I overcome challenges. Conscious living gives me greater strength and energy. I enjoy a sense of purpose. I believe in my ability to create the results I want.

I simplify my life. I limit my consumption and distractions. I am content with what I have.

I savor my food. I plan healthy meals for my family and me. We sit down together to share nourishment and conversation.

I play with my children. They teach me how to use my imagination and have fun.

I meditate daily. I still my mind and sharpen my concentration. I gain insights about myself. I feel more connected and secure.

Today, I make conscious choices rather than automatically repeating old habits. I feel fully awake. I appreciate the beauty and peace that surrounds me.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1.  How does mindfulness help me to relieve stress?

2.  What is the difference between awareness and judgement?

3.  How can I design my schedule to reflect my priorities?


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Feeling Unappreciated – Heres What You Can Do

Feeling Unappreciated – Heres What You Can Do

There are three general places we’re likely to feel unappreciated: work, home, and within a relationship. If you’re feeling unappreciated, there’s a good chance it’s within one of these three areas of your life.

Children are notoriously unappreciative. Spouses and bosses are often blind to the contributions we make. Even friends and coworkers can fail to show the appreciation we believe we deserve.

Everyone suffers from feeling unappreciated at times. Consider these ideas if you’re struggling to pinpoint your emotion.

Signs that you’re feeling unappreciated: 

1.  You feel resentment towards someone in your life. If you’re feeling resentful toward someone, you might be feeling unappreciated. This is especially true if they haven’t recently done anything obvious to upset you.

–  If you’ve been feeling resentful lately, ask yourself why.

2.  You feel like you’re doing all the work to maintain a relationship. Sometimes it feels like you’re doing all the work in a relationship, and the other person isn’t putting in nearly as much effort. This is a common reason for feeling unappreciated.

–  Relationships are never exactly equal, but the inequality should shift back and forth. Healthy relationships are equal over time, but not all the time.

3.  You’re not being thanked for your efforts or contribution. We don’t have to receive a medal for every little thing we do, but it’s nice to be recognized for our efforts. This can happen at work or at home.

4.  You aren’t asked for your opinion.  When we aren’t asked for our opinion, we don’t feel valued. When others respect your opinion, they respect you.

5.  The other person isn’t making time for you.  If someone never seems to have time for you, you’re likely to feel unappreciated. This is especially true if they seem to be able to make time for other people and activities.

Does the list above resonate with you? If you’ve identified yourself as feeling unappreciated, it’s time to do something about it.

Follow these strategies and get the appreciation you deserve:

1.  Determine what is happening that makes you feel unappreciated. Pin down the times you feel unappreciated. What exactly is happening? Who is involved? What is being said or not being said?

2.  Determine what would have to happen for you to feel appreciated. What needs to change? What has to be done or said for you to feel better?

3.  Try being more appreciative. This might sound odd, but a good strategy for receiving more appreciation is to give more appreciation. This can be hard to do when you feel that you’re not already receiving the appreciation you deserve. Try it and see if this strategy works for you.

4.  Be open about your needs. It’s always better to communicate your needs than to just remain upset. Tell the other person how you’re feeling and why. Be sure to offer a solution and be willing to listen to the response.

5.  Consider changing your behavior. If your actions aren’t appreciated, perhaps what you’re doing doesn’t matter to the other person. Your time might be better spent in other ways. There’s always the possibility that you could consider rearranging your life so you can feel more appreciated.

In some situations, you’re just going to have to accept that you’re not going to receive the appreciation you deserve. This often occurs in work situations. Focus on feeling proud of your contributions and be thankful for your paycheck!

However, you can often receive the appreciation you desire if you speak up for yourself. Most people are kind and will correct their behavior once they’re made aware. Avoid suffering in silence and get the appreciation you deserve!


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The Earnest Elephant Fable

The Earnest Elephant Fable

A story about the value of pushing for what you want until you get it.

Ethan Elephant was just a child, as far as elephants go, but he was learning important elephant skills each day. Then, one day, he realized that all his cousins seemed to know things that he didn’t!

Would he be ostracized by his friends? Would they think of him as a baby? What could he do?

Short Story:

The elephant wildlands were always buzzing with activity, especially on bright, sunny days. Little Ethan and his elephant cousins would spend their afternoons playing in the fields until they were exhausted and thirsty.

As young elephants, they didn’t yet know how to siphon water with their trunks, so they always crouched down to the river and drank directly with their mouths.

One day, Ethan noticed that his cousins started squirting water into their mouths and he thought, “Awesome! I must be able to do that too!”

But when Ethan tried to do it, it wasn’t working out like it did for his cousins. Although he was a little disappointed, he spent the next few hours by the river trying to do it.

That’s when his mom yelled, “Ethan, time to come in for dinner!” But Ethan wasn’t ready. He was committed to learning how to drink like his cousins and said, “Not now, mom. I have to figure this out today!”

Sensing her son’s determination, she said, “Okay, let’s make a deal. If you agree to pick twigs and leaves for your little sister, I’ll give you two extra hours each day to practice.”

Ethan only liked grazing for himself but was willing to help his mom take care of his little sister. And with that extra time each day, he finally learned how to siphon and squirt water into his mouth.

The added bonus of Ethan’s determination was becoming seasoned at taking care of others. He felt so proud that he mastered two new skills by sticking to his original goal.

Moral: Perseverance often leads to unexpected wins.

Self-Reflection Questions:

Ethan was a pretty self-confident little elephant, but he lost a little of that confidence when he saw his cousins doing something he was unable to do. Still, he blocked negative self-talk and focused on working towards achieving it.

Instead of choosing to give up, Ethan showed strong conviction in his ability to conquer a challenge.

Many times, the feelings that you allow to take over gain control of the outcomes of the situations you encounter. By choosing to maintain positive thinking, you realize that the answers to each challenge you face become more and more apparent.

Developing one skill also expands your aptitude for everything else. You can achieve more goals by learning skills that are useful in other areas.

So, when one approach seems like it’s unable to provide the outcome you seek, be open to other options. Your persistence will pay off in the end. Not only will you achieve that goal but becoming proficient in one area will boost your self-confidence and propel you to success in other areas as well.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1.  Which of my goals am I most passionate about? How can I persevere to achieve this goal?

2.  What are some encouraging things I tell myself when I feel like giving up?

3.  What are some additional achievements under my belt as a result of persevering?


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Walking around in fear limits my potential.

Walking around in fear limits my potential.

Walking around in fear limits my potential.

When I look in the mirror, I see someone who is destined for greatness. I breathe confidence into myself to go after goals.

Excessive internalization puts doubts in my mind, so I act quickly when I make a decision. This keeps me from building up fear and shirking any commitments.

The world sometimes looks scary, but in reality, there is hardly anything to be afraid of. The possible outcomes of each situation are limited. I am willing to accept whichever one that comes because they are all outside of my control.

Doubting myself on the job prevents me from accessing great opportunities. Sales calls are intimidating, but the worst scenario is that I hear, “No.”

When I consider how insignificant that response is to my existence, I regain confidence. The person on the other end of the line has little significance to my life. Confidently calling one after the other eventually leads to success.

It is great to be liked by others, but that falls very low on my priority list. I act according to my own standards and beliefs. How another person views that is irrelevant.

I place very little focus on pleasing others. I present myself as I sincerely am. It is okay when only some people accept that. What matters is how I feel about myself.

Today, each step is guided by the belief that fear is a figment of my imagination. I challenge my mind to think positively and take courageous steps. My potential is immeasurable when I do that.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1.   What are the things that I tend to be fearful about?

2.  How do I encourage myself to put aside feelings of nervousness?

3.  How does it feel to overcome a fear?


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