The New Job

The New Job

The New Job  the story of a ‘people pleaser’ who pleased no one.
Sarah was new in town and went out of her way to help others.  Unfortunately, Sarah took on more than she could do…

Short story.

Sarah was on top of the world! She had recently graduated from college and landed a great job with an exciting company.

Even though her new job was in a city far away from her family and friends, she thought, “No problem. I’ll make new friends at work!” She was really looking forward to her first day on the job. It all started very well.

Everyone at the office was friendly. During the first week or two, almost everyone came by her desk to introduce themselves. Sarah was very happy to meet them and eager to please.  Nearly every day, at least one of the nice people Sarah had met would call or e-mail her, asking if she would help them out with a little project – reorganizing files, stuffing envelopes, or other small things.

Hoping to make friends, Sarah always said, “Yes.”  The projects started building up. Sarah took longer and longer to complete them until she just had too many to keep track of. Every day a couple of people would call her to check on their delayed projects. They always spoke angrily and were very upset with Sarah for being late. 

She wasn’t making any friends at all! In fact, now no one seemed to like her! Sarah wondered how this could have happened – she had tried so hard to make everyone happy.

MORAL:  Take on only what you know you can do. Say “no” when you should.

Personal reflection.

Oh, the people pleasers! We all know leaders and followers alike who try so hard to make everyone happy that they can’t satisfy anyone!

Are you one of those people who say “yes” to everyone? Do you feel that saying “yes” will bring you friends? If these thoughts ring true, reflect on this story carefully. It may help you pinpoint the basis of some frustrations in your life.

No one can do everything. Trying to be everything to everyone is a sure way to please no one and disappoint everyone, including yourself.

By saying “yes” to everyone, Sarah was was unable to focus on her own job, and she created an expectation of failure and unreliability among her coworkers. Not the way to make a great first impression!

There are respectful and thoughtful ways to say “no.” Learning those techniques and when to use them are important life skills.

Each of us has limits on our time and abilities. Knowing those limits is not a sign of weakness; instead, it signals great self-awareness and understanding.

If you really want to make friends and become a valuable member of a community, Sarah’s situation can remind you about what’s important in building relationships.

You may have to say “no” from time to time so when you say “yes,” you really mean it. 

Being reliable and trustworthy will earn you the respect and admiration of those around you. Plus, you’ll gain a sense of accomplishment and worth.

Isn’t that what we all want from our relationships – trust, meeting expectations, a sense of accomplishment, and mutual respect? Knowing what you can and can’t do, and making those expectations clear, are important steps toward establishing healthy and comfortable relationships.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1.  Am I constantly overwhelmed by the amount of work I have to do?

2.  Do I find myself agreeing to do “just one more project” when inside I’m really saying, “No! I can’t!”

3.  Have I ever been told that I need to learn to say “no”?

 

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Executive Presence with Harrison Monarth

Executive Presence with Harrison Monarth

Harrison Monarth is an executive coach, based in New York City, and over the past 15 years he has worked personally with over 60 FORTUNE 500 CEOs and thousands of senior leaders globally at companies like, GE, PepsiCo, Deloitte, P&G, MetLife, CHANEL, General Motors and HP to name a few.

Harrison Monarth helps managers and leaders better understand their style and impact on others, broaden their strategic perspective, improve stakeholder relationships, overcome ingrained behavioral patterns, and reach critical goals. 

On Today’s Podcast Here is What You Will Learn:

  • Executive Presence – What it is and why we need it is useful in many areas of life, not just business
  • How to Understand Organizational Culture
  • How to Network and Build Relationships

What Else You Will Learn on Today’s Show

  • What gets people ahead in in their careers and companies?
  • What is executive presence and why do you need it to get ahead?
  • How can we make better first impressions?
  • How do you develop a personal brand and why is it important?

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Website:  www.gurumaker.com

To help people assess their executive presence we have a 15-min free self-assessment at www.executivepresenceindicator.com

 

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The challenges of finding and living your Soul’s mission with Anahata Ananda

The challenges of finding and living your Soul’s mission with Anahata Ananda

Anahata Ananda blends the compassion and tenderness of an Angel and the wisdom and strength of a Shaman to guide profound journeys of core healing and spiritual awakening.

As a Certified High-Performance Coach, Shamanic Healer and Soul Guide, Anahata has guided thousands of individuals through core life shifts, helping them to turn their life around and manifest the life of their dreams. Anahata is the host of the internationally acclaimed Shamangelic Healing Podcast.

She is the founder of Shamangelic Healing, based in Sedona Arizona, where she offers high-performance coaching, inspirational workshops, group retreats, private healing sessions, and online courses.

On Todays’ Podcast Here Is What You Will Learn:

  • The challenges of finding and living your Soul’s mission
  • How to know your soul’s mission, how to follow it, how to handle the obstacles
  • What is Yoga off the mat? The life of a true yogi off the mat and in everyday life.
  • Beyond the postures – the inward journey of a yogi self awareness, self inquiry, stillness, transformation and liberation from false beliefs

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I accept others just the way they are.

I accept others just the way they are.

I accept others just the way they are.

My relationships are based on respect and understanding.

 I focus on the positive. I look for qualities that I value and admire.

I notice if someone excels at their job or goes out of their way to be helpful. When I recognize their strengths, I feel friendlier towards them and enjoy their company.

I deepen my understanding. I avoid making assumptions about others based on limited knowledge.

I remember that they are complex individuals. Even if they yelled at me in traffic, they may perform many great deeds. 

I open up my mind. I become more flexible. I recognize that there are many different ways to approach the same situation.

I cultivate humility. I realize that I have flaws too. It is easier to be patient and forgiving when I recognize that I have the same needs.

I treat others with compassion. I think about how their behavior affects them instead of concentrating on myself alone. I want them to be happy.

I appreciate diversity. I imagine how boring the world would be if each of us was the same.

I pursue my own goals. When I make my life more meaningful and satisfying, I find that I am less critical of others.

Today, I am loving and kind. I let go of the desire to change others. I respect their right to be who they are. I experience fewer conflicts, and I feel more connected.

Self-Reflection Questions:

  1. How can I maintain healthy boundaries while accepting others?
  2. What is the difference between accepting someone and agreeing with them?
  3. How do I feel when someone accepts me?

 

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Designing your Life on Purpose with Phyllis Ginsberg

Designing your Life on Purpose with Phyllis Ginsberg

Phyllis Ginsberg has written two books: Brain Makeover – A Weekly Guide to a Happier, Healthier, and More Abundant Life,  and Tired and Hungry No More – Not Your Ordinary Guide to Reclaiming Your Health and Happiness.

She is known and beloved by lots of happier, healthier, and less stressed working professionals as their Survival to Thrival Expert.

Her 30 years of experience as a Marriage and Family Therapist, and expertise in Positive Psychology, Brain Research and EFT Tapping, give her clients an edge in making lasting, profound changes in their lives.

Quickly, they shift their stressful thinking to achieve calm, clarity and creativity. That means that the quality of their lives and work gets better – often in a moment.

On Today’s Podcast Here is What You Will Learn:

  1. Designing your life on purpose starts with YOU!  Self-care (sleep, diet, exercise, etc.)
  2. Sticking to the design of living your life on purpose. Why is it so difficult to make the changes I want?
  3. How do you define yourself? Where do you put your focus? On the things that go well or the things that go wrong? Do you define yourself by your mistakes or achievements?
  4. Possibility Thinking

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The Circle of Life

Reveal the “big picture” of your true dreams – and pave the road for a real, personalized action plan

I am a Board Certified Life Coach, a Board Certified Health Coach,  and a teacher of Mindfulness Living who helps people unlock their potential and live life on Purpose

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